Saturday, December 15, 2012

Your Inner Persian: Koo Koo Sabzhi Recipe

So here goes my first real Persian-y blog post... one of the most wonderful things about any
culture is the food. Persian cuisine, like many of Asia, is heavily laden with spices, and has its own
unusual combinations. Some ingredients in this recipe are easy to come by in
your local stores, but some you will have to trek out to a Middle Eastern market.
My personal favorites in Boise are Ishtar* (off Overland in the Overland Park Shopping Mall),
and Kabul Market (off Overland and Curtis area)**. For my Utah friends, the Pars Market in SLC is amazing... and the owners are also very special to me. I will make a note if the ingredients need to
be sought after below. The great thing is that these markets are so cheap, and you can get a
variety of things you wouldnt normally see! I love foreign markets.

Okay, now for the fun part... the cooking!
First, let me describe koo koo sabzhi... literally translated its means green (sabzhi) eggs (koo koo),
and that is basically what it is. I guess you can liken it to a baked herb frittata, but
with spices that you would never thing to combine... and a lot more herbs than eggs.

koo koo sabzi is eaten by many Persians in the morning for breakfast as a
healthy source of protein and veggies, and its also eaten on or around Persian New Year (nowruz)
because sabzhi is supposed to stand for new life, and growth.
Usually its eaten with a bread called lavash, and a spiced yogurt mixture... yum! 

Now for the ingredient list, pictured below (and no, I am no food photographer, so bear with me)

12 eggs
1 tsp salt
2 tsp ground black pepper
1 tbsp baking powder
2 tsp advieh (Persian Spice Mix, Recipe Below)

2 c. finely chopped coriander (cilantro)
2 c. finely chopped parsley
2 c. finely chopped scallion or garlic greens
2 c. finely chopped dill (you may be better off in the winter to use dried dill) 
1 tbsp dried fenugreek leaves**
2 tbsp all purpose flour
4 cloves garlic, peeled and crushed

1/2 c. olive oil for baking
parchment or baking paper

Now, as my lovely friend Mozghan pointed out, you should probably use a
food processor to chop all your herbs.. which I did not... I chopped by hand for like 20 minutes.
I will just say that it was very satisfying, and my grandmother probably did it by hand... ha.
Thats what we call justifying rationale... which is mostly BS.


Sadaf is a great brand of spices from the Middle East, and the dried Fenugreek below is
both delicious and potent... use sparingly. Now for the advieh recipe... its a spice blend...
advieh means spices, so you cant go into a Middle Eastern store and ask for advieh, because
they will just point you in the direction of all spices (yes, I made that mistake).
Advieh
(Persian Spice Mix)
(blend in a spice grinder, I use our coffee grinder)
1 whole cinnamon stick (broken into pieces)
4 tbsp cumin seeds
4 tbsp dried rose petals
2 tbsp whole green cardamon pods



After you combine your egg mixture (in blue), add it to your green herb mixture (in purple), mix,
but not too thoroughly, you dont want to overmix.
Spread the 1/2 cup of oil over a baking sheet, and layer in the koo koo mix 
Preheat your oven to 400 degrees, and bake for 30-40 minutes.

 
Now for the yogurt! This has a recipe, but its more of a sight thing with me... so I will
try to give you some vague guidelines, and you can go from there. Traditionally, this yogurt has
finely chopped cucumber added, but I left it out because cucumbers are no good in the winter.
Yogurt (Maast O Khiar)
2 c. labneh (plain greek yogurt)
2 cloves garlic, peeled and crushed
1/2 tsp each salt and pepper or to taste
1-2 tsp dried mint
rose petals for garnish

Pictured below is everything assembled.. I cut it up into triangles, and serve with the yogurt mix,
and some delicious bread from Ishtar Market, they were out of lavash at Kabul Market.
I am currently working on getting Mike to make some lavash bread.
You can serve this cold or hot, eat in anytime of day and be satisfied. I love koo koo sabzhi,
and not just because I like to say the name (which I do, alot). Mike likes to say that
he is "coo coo for koo koo sabzhi." Corn ball.

Yum.





Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Reading List for the Cold Winter Months

 
 
So this is kind of a funny post, but anyone familiar with the show "The Gilmore Girls" will know what I am talking about. It was part of my high school TV watch list with my mom and sis, so dont judge, it was bonding. ha.
 
is that these books are all mentioned on the show by Rory, an awkward sort of sheltered, but
extremely smart daughter of one of the main characters. So this reading list has to be legit.
I am going to highlight the ones I have read, and give it a score and its classification, just in case anyone is looking for some new books to read... I know I am. One cannot survive waiting for the next Percy Jackson book. (Yes, I am serious).
 
 
THE LIST
*means I have read the book     
*means I have seen a movie/play version, read it but cant remember it,
or am not sure if I have read it or not.... which does not count technically.
1984 by George Orwell
The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain
Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay by Michael Chabon
An American Tragedy by Theodore Dreiser
Angela’s Ashes by Frank McCourt
Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank
Archidamian War by Donald Kagan
The Art of Fiction by Henry James
The Art of War by Sun Tzu
As I Lay Dying by William Faulkner
Atonement by Ian McEwan
Autobiography of a Face by Lucy Grealy
The Awakening by Kate Chopin
Babe by Dick King-Smith
Backlash: The Undeclared War Against American Women by Susan Faludi
Balzac and the Little Chinese Seamstress by Dai Sijie
Bel Canto by Ann Patchett
The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath
Beloved by Toni Morrison
Beowulf: A New Verse Translation by Seamus Heaney
The Bhagava Gita
The Bielski Brothers: The True Story of Three Men Who Defied the Nazis,
Built a Village in the Forest, and Saved 1,200 Jews by Peter Duffy
Bitch in Praise of Difficult Women by Elizabeth Wurtzel
A Bolt from the Blue and Other Essays by Mary McCarthy
Brave New World by Aldous Huxley
Brick Lane by Monica Ali
Bridgadoon by Alan Jay Lerner
Candide by Voltaire
The Canterbury Tales by Chaucer
Carrie by Stephen King
Catch-22 by Joseph Heller
The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger
Charlottes Web by E.B. White
The Children’s Hour by Lillian Hellman
Christine by Stephen King
A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens
A Clockwork Orange by Anthony Burgess
The Code of the Woosters by P.G. Wodehouse
The Collected Short Stories by Eudora Welty
The Collected Stories of Eudora Welty by Eudora Welty
A Comedy of Errors by William Shakespeare
Complete Novels by Dawn Powell
The Complete Poems by Anne Sexton
Complete Stories by Dorothy Parker
A Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole
The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas père
Cousin Bette by Honor’e de Balzac
Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky
The Crimson Petal and the White by Michel Faber – started and not finished
The Crucible by Arthur Miller
Cujo by Stephen King
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon
Daisy Miller by Henry James
Daughter of Fortune by Isabel Allende
David and Lisa by Dr Theodore Issac Rubin M.D
David Copperfield by Charles Dickens
The Davinci Code by Dan Brown
Dead Souls by Nikolai Gogol
Demons by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Death of a Salesman by Arthur Miller
Deenie by Judy Blume
The Devil in the White City: Murder, Magic, and Madness at the
Fair that Changed America by Erik Larson
The Dirt: Confessions of the World’s Most Notorious Rock Band by Tommy Lee, Vince Neil, Mick Mars and Nikki Sixx
The Divine Comedy by Dante
The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood by Rebecca Wells
Don Quijote by Cervantes
Driving Miss Daisy by Alfred Uhrv
Dr. Jekyll and Mr Hyde by Robert Louis Stevenson
Edgar Allan Poe: Complete Tales & Poems by Edgar Allan Poe
Eleanor Roosevelt by Blanche Wiesen Cook
The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test by Tom Wolfe
Ella Minnow Pea: A Novel in Letters by Mark Dunn
Eloise by Kay Thompson
Emily the Strange by Roger Reger
Emma by Jane Austen
Empire Falls by Richard Russo
Encyclopedia Brown: Boy Detective by Donald J. Sobol
Ethan Frome by Edith Wharton
Ethics by Spinoza
Europe through the Back Door, 2003 by Rick Steves
Eva Luna by Isabel Allende
Everything Is Illuminated by Jonathan Safran Foer
Extravagance by Gary Krist
Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury
Fahrenheit 9/11 by Michael Moore
The Fall of the Athenian Empire by Donald Kagan
Fat Land: How Americans Became the Fattest People in the World by Greg Critser
Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas by Hunter S. Thompson
Fiddler on the Roof by Joseph Stein
The Five People You Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom
Finnegan’s Wake by James Joyce
Fletch by Gregory McDonald
Flowers for Algernon by Daniel Keyes
The Fortress of Solitude by Jonathan Lethem
The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand
Frankenstein by Mary Shelley
Franny and Zooey by J. D. Salinger
Freaky Friday by Mary Rodgers
Galapagos by Kurt Vonnegut
Gender Trouble by Judith Butler
George W. Bushism: The Slate Book of the Accidental
Wit and Wisdom of our 43rd President by Jacob Weisberg
Gidget by Fredrick Kohner
Girl, Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen
The Gnostic Gospels by Elaine Pagels
The Godfather: Book 1 by Mario Puzo
The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy
Goldilocks and the Three Bears by Alvin Granowsky
Gone with the Wind by Margaret Mitchell
The Good Soldier by Ford Maddox Ford
The Gospel According to Judy Bloom
The Graduate by Charles Webb
The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck
The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
Great Expectations by Charles Dickens
The Group by Mary McCarthy
Hamlet by William Shakespeare
Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire by J. K. Rowling
Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone by J. K. Rowling

A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers
Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad (TBR)
Helter Skelter: The True Story of the Manson Murders
by Vincent Bugliosi and Curt Gentry (TBR)
Henry IV, part I by William Shakespeare
Henry IV, part II by William Shakespeare
Henry V by William Shakespeare
High Fidelity by Nick Hornby
The History of the Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire
by Edward Gibbon
Holidays on Ice: Stories by David Sedaris
The Holy Barbarians by Lawrence Lipton
House of Sand and Fog by Andre Dubus III
The House of the Spirits by Isabel Allende
How to Breathe Underwater by Julie Orringer
How the Grinch Stole Christmas by Dr. Seuss
How the Light Gets in by M. J. Hyland
Howl by Allen Gingsburg
The Hunchback of Notre Dame by Victor Hugo
The Iliad by Homer
I’m with the Band by Pamela des Barres
In Cold Blood by Truman Capote
Inherit the Wind by Jerome Lawrence and Robert E. Lee
Iron Weed by William J. Kennedy
It Takes a Village by Hillary Clinton
Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë
The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan
Julius Caesar by William Shakespeare
The Jumping Frog by Mark Twain
The Jungle by Upton Sinclair
Just a Couple of Days by Tony Vigorito
The Kitchen Boy: A Novel of the Last Tsar by Robert Alexander
The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini
Lady Chatterleys’ Lover by D. H. Lawrence
The Last Empire: Essays 1992-2000 by Gore Vidal
Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman
The Legend of Bagger Vance by Steven Pressfield
Less Than Zero by Bret Easton Ellis
Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
Lies and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them by Al Franken
Life of Pi by Yann Martel
The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis
Little Dorrit by Charles Dickens
The Little Locksmith by Katharine Butler Hathaway
The Little Match Girl by Hans Christian Andersen
Little Women by Louisa May Alcott
Living History by Hillary Rodham Clinton
Lord of the Flies by William Golding
The Lottery: And Other Stories by Shirley Jackson
The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold
The Love Story by Erich Segal
Macbeth by William ShakespeareMadame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert
The Manticore by Robertson Davies
Marathon Man by William Goldman
The Master and Margarita by Mikhail Bulgakov
Memoirs of a Dutiful Daughter by Simone de Beauvoir
Memoirs of General W. T. Sherman by William Tecumseh Sherman
Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris
The Meaning of Consuelo by Judith Ortiz Cofer
Mencken’s Chrestomathy by H. R. Mencken
The Merry Wives of Windsor by William Shakespeare
The Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka
Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides
The Miracle Worker by William Gibson
Moby Dick by Herman Melville
The Mojo Collection: The Ultimate Music Companion by Jim Irvin
Moliere: A Biography by Hobart Chatfield Taylor
A Monetary History of the United States by Milton Friedman
Monsieur Proust by Celeste Albaret
A Month Of Sundays: Searching For The Spirit And My Sister by Julie Mars
A Moveable Feast by Ernest Hemingway
Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia Woolf
Mutiny on the Bounty by Charles Nordhoff and James Norman Hall
My Lai 4: A Report on the Massacre and It’s Aftermath by Seymour M. Hersh
My Life as Author and Editor by H. R. Mencken
My Life in Orange: Growing Up with the Guru by Tim Guest
My Sister’s Keeper by Jodi Picoult
The Naked and the Dead by Norman Mailer
The Name of the Rose by Umberto Eco
The Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri
The Nanny Diaries by Emma McLaughlin
Nervous System: Or, Losing My Mind in Literature by Jan Lars Jensen
New Poems of Emily Dickinson by Emily Dickinson
The New Way Things Work by David Macaulay
Nickel and Dimed by Barbara Ehrenreich
Night by Elie Wiesel
Northanger Abbey by Jane Austen
The Norton Anthology of Theory and Criticism by William E. Cain, Laurie A. Finke, Barbara E. Johnson, John P. McGowan
Novels 1930-1942: Dance Night/Come Back to Sorrento, Turn, Magic Wheel/Angels on Toast/A Time to be Born by Dawn Powell
Notes of a Dirty Old Man by Charles Bukowski
Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck
Old School by Tobias Wolff
Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens
On the Road by Jack Kerouac
One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovitch by Alexander Solzhenitsyn
One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest by Ken Kesey
One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez
The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life by Amy Tan
Oracle Night by Paul Auster
Oryx and Crake by Margaret Atwood
Othello by Shakespeare
Our Mutual Friend by Charles Dickens
The Outbreak of the Peloponnesian War by Donald Kagan
Out of Africa by Isac Dineson
The Outsiders by S. E. Hinton
A Passage to India by E.M. Forster
The Peace of Nicias and the Sicilian Expedition by Donald Kagan
The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky
Peyton Place by Grace Metalious
The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde
Pigs at the Trough by Arianna Huffington
Pinocchio by Carlo Collodi
Please Kill Me: The Uncensored Oral History of Punk Legs McNeil and Gillian McCain
The Polysyllabic Spree by Nick Hornby
The Portable Dorothy Parker by Dorothy Parker
The Portable Nietzche by Fredrich Nietzche
The Price of Loyalty: George W. Bush, the White House, and the Education
of Paul O’Neill by Ron Suskind
Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
Property by Valerie Martin
Pushkin: A Biography by T. J. Binyon
Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw
Quattrocento by James Mckean
A Quiet Storm by Rachel Howzell Hall
Rapunzel by Grimm Brothers
The Raven by Edgar Allan Poe
The Razor’s Edge by W. Somerset Maugham
Reading Lolita in Tehran: A Memoir in Books by Azar Nafisi
Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier
Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm by Kate Douglas Wiggin
The Red Tent by Anita Diamant
Rescuing Patty Hearst: Memories From a Decade Gone Mad by Virginia Holman
R Is for Ricochet by Sue Grafton
Rita Hayworth by Stephen King
Robert’s Rules of Order by Henry Robert
Roman Fever by Edith Wharton
Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare
A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Woolf
A Room with a View by E. M. Forster
Rosemary’s Baby by Ira Levin
Sacred Time by Ursula Hegi
Sanctuary by William Faulkner
Savage Beauty: The Life of Edna St. Vincent Millay by Nancy Milford
The Scarecrow of Oz by Frank L. BaumThe Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne
Seabiscuit: An American Legend by Laura Hillenbrand
The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd
Secrets of the Flesh: A Life of Colette by Judith Thurman
Selected Letters of Dawn Powell: 1913-1965 by Dawn Powell
Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen
A Separate Peace by John Knowles
Several Biographies of Winston Churchill
Sexus by Henry Miller
The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon
Shane by Jack Shaefer
The Shining by Stephen King
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse
S Is for Silence by Sue Grafton
Slaughter-House Five by Kurt Vonnegut
Small Island by Andrea Levy
Snows of Kilimanjaro by Ernest Hemingway
Snow White and Rose Red by Grimm Brothers
Social Origins of Dictatorship and Democracy: Lord and Peasant in the
Making of the Modern World by Barrington Moore
The Song of Names by Norman Lebrecht
Song of the Simple Truth: The Complete Poems of
Julia de Burgos by Julia de Burgos
The Song Reader by Lisa Tucker
Songbook by Nick Hornby
The Sonnets by William Shakespeare
Sonnets from the Portuegese by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Sophie’s Choice by William Styron
The Sound and the Fury by William Faulkner
Speak, Memory by Vladimir Nabokov
Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers by Mary Roach
The Story of My Life by Helen Keller
A Streetcar Named Desiree by Tennessee Williams
Stuart Little by E. B. White
Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway
Swann’s Way by Marcel Proust
Swimming with Giants: My Encounters with Whales,
Dolphins and Seals by Anne Collett
Sybil by Flora Rheta Schreiber
A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens
Tender Is The Night by F. Scott Fitzgerald
Terms of Endearment by Larry McMurtry
Time and Again by Jack Finney
The Time Traveler’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger
To Have and Have Not by Ernest Hemingway
To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
The Tragedy of Richard III by William Shakespeare
A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith
The Trial by Franz Kafka
The True and Outstanding Adventures of the
Hunt Sisters by Elisabeth Robinson
Truth & Beauty: A Friendship by Ann Patchett
Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom
Ulysses by James Joyce
The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath 1950-1962 by Sylvia Plath
Uncle Tom’s Cabin by Harriet Beecher Stowe
Unless by Carol Shields
Valley of the Dolls by Jacqueline Susann
The Vanishing Newspaper by Philip Meyers
Vanity Fair by William Makepeace Thackeray
Velvet Underground’s The Velvet Underground and Nico
(Thirty Three and a Third series) by Joe Harvard
The Virgin Suicides by Jeffrey Eugenides
Waiting for Godot by Samuel Beckett
Walden by Henry David Thoreau
Walt Disney’s Bambi by Felix Salten
War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy
We Owe You Nothing – Punk Planet: The Collected Interviews
edited by Daniel Sinker
What Colour is Your Parachute? 2005 by Richard Nelson Bolles
What Happened to Baby Jane by Henry Farrell
When the Emperor Was Divine by Julie Otsuka
Who Moved My Cheese? Spencer Johnson
Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf by Edward Albee
Wicked: The Life and Times of the Wicked Witch of the West
by Gregory Maguire
The Wizard of Oz by Frank L. BaumWuthering Heights by Emily Brontë
The Yearling by Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings
The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Shampoo Mohawks

One thing that I find is universal: Kids love Shampoo Mohawks.
Bottomline.
This is my very coy baby. I basque in his adorable nature.

Friday, November 30, 2012

Four Gifts

Piggy-backing on my last post, Mike and I decided that we were going to
do the four gift viral gift giving thats going around this year, and hopefully
consecutive years after....

The premise is you give your children four gifts instead of the mass amounts
of gifts one might expect (I know I remember a tree-full). The four gifts
fit into four categories: something you want, something you need, something
to wear, and something to read. I know his grandparents always spoil him
so whats the point... and at this age... all he is interested in is stacking bowls,
and empty yogurt cups. Fancy toys are sort of lost on him.

We decided to split up the responsibilities. I got Otto the NEED and the
WEAR, and Mike is getting him the WANT and the READ. I have already
kind of cheated though... I may have gotten him a few other things here
and there... whoops. Hopefully they will fit in his stocking...

Which reminds me... I finally finished the stockings I started last year
for the family... pictures soon.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Are Our Kids Entitled?

I came across an interesting article while perusing one of my friends
Pinterest pages, and thought I would share. It brings up some interesting
points about the culture we live in, being one of entitlement, oh god...
such a taboo subject with the last election, but is it true?

I guess I would have to examine the context of this article in order to
take it out of the political arena... because I dont even want to go there.
The main premise is that our children are inundated with messages of
want vs need, with the want always trumping the need. Whether its TV,
or movies, or other children, there is a message circulating that having
the newest toys or electronics is essential to happiness. I firmly believe
that this message can be counteracted in the home, and the article gives
some great tips on how to make children appreciate their possessions,
but also understand how hard work can be rewarded.

I know when we first got pregnant Mike and I were talking about how
we grew up and what kinds of lessons we took away from each of our
upbringings. I was raised as an entitled child... I got whatever I wanted,
always had nice clothes, but I also went into my mom's store and helped
her during the Christmas season, had chores around the house, and had
an expectation to treat my possessions with respect. I was always
encouraged in school, and remember both of my parents taking an active
role in my school and after school activities... we always had family
dinner together every night and were required to ask if we could be
excused from the table, which never happened unless we had homework.
We always had to wait til we were all done. My mom always paid for
everything, that includes friends, and never let out of town guests pay
for anything (that was always an interesting fight when the bill came),
and like my mother, put myself into a world of debt that was at times
overwhelming. I should also add that my father passed away when I was
14, so my mom was a single parent, with a good income, but I think
she tried to overcompensate for my father's death with possessions, for
which I do not fault her, it was a hard adjustment.

          Pros: I never went without, and I had a sense of pride in my
                    accomplishments because I knew my parents took pride
                    in what I did, and were able to give me the tools to succeed
                    (i.e. private art classes, supplies, soccer teams, etc). I work
                    hard and have a sense of accomplishment in everything I do
                    and always strive to better myself, and I throw myself into
                    my work (much to my downfall at times). I learned
                    generosity and the value of things (even if I should probably
                    wait to purchase said items til I can afford it).

          Cons: I have a hard time living within my means, everyday is a
                     struggle to stay within my set budget and paying down
                     my obscene amount of debt (near $20,000, not including
                     a small amount of student loans) was a four year struggle.
                     I still have bouts of retail therapy, and I am generous to a
                     fault (I know that sounds cocky, but I will give you the
                     clothes off my back if I think you need it).

I have to write this section based on what I remember and gleaned from
the way Mike described his childhood. Mike had a somewhat tumultuous
childhood, having his parents divorce at an early age, and it was not
amicable by any stretch of the imagination. He was one of 4 kids, which
already can stretch a family's budget. His mother was a teacher, and
his dad was a struggling lawyer, thats not to say he wasnt good, just
fresh out of law school and it takes time to build a practice. His parents
had very different parenting styles; his dad was strict and disciplined
(he was a military man), and has a hightened sense of morality and
justice, more on that later. His mother, who is fantastic, was not strict,
and sort of let the kids have the run of the house. She worked very hard
as a teacher for little pay, and worked even harder in the summer just to
make ends meet for her family. I wont go into the custody and child
support issues because it was a childhood of turmoil on that end. Mike
did not have a childhood filled with extravagance, to which I dont fault
either parent, it was just a fact of circumstance. However, the one thing
Mike took away was that he may not have gotten the newest or the
best of anything, he did have a childhood of experiences whether it was
hunting, fishing or camping trips to various places he always had that.
His parents also scrimped and saved to send him to a soccer tournament
in Holland. There are other elements at play in his childhood, but while
it wasn't always stable, he knew his parents loved him, and were
interested in his activities enough to sacrifice for him.

          Pros:  He does not have the inclination to get the newest and
                     greatest, he is content with what he has and when he can
                     afford it he will upgrade to a new, but used product. He is
                     very DIY, which saves his a ton of money to hire a
                     professional (most of the time). He lives within his means,
                     and has a great sense of what things are valuable, and
                     what things are priceless. He is a great balance to me. He
                     appreciates the little things. He wants to make sure Otto
                     grows up in a loving environment, and that even if some
                     kind of catastrophe befalls our relationship, that he will
                     never experience our troubles, and that he will be loved.

          Cons: He goes without when he should really just go get. If you
                     know Mike, you know his clothes are full of holes and he
                     will wear them til they are threadbare and falling off his
                     body literally. He had to see his family constantly struggle,
                     which is not a happy position to be in as a kid, and saw a
                     lot of animosity between his parents (which has actually
                     turned into a pro because he is so even-keeled and always
                     strives to make things better instead of perpetuate our
                     fights).I honestly, can't think of any other cons, but
                     then again I am only gleaning, maybe he has more insight.


Collectively, we plan to raise Otto with the benefits of both of our
upbringings... Otto will never go without the necessities, but he will be
more brought up on experiences, and encouragement. He will not see
or feel the struggles we may be experiencing, and will not see any
animosity between his parents, no matter what life brings us. We never
want him to be indulged, but we do want him to feel safe and secure in
his childhood... adulthood will soon come and he will feel some harsh
realities, but is it wrong to want them to live an idealic childhood while
they can? 

 Here are the thing this article suggest to raise your children to value life
more and possessions less. I summed them up in a list (because this post
is long enough as it is), for more details the article link is below.

1. Teach Values.
2. Role Model.
3. Counteract the message that happiness can be bought.
4. Recognize that buying can be an addiction.
5. Don't feed your child's emotional hunger with possessions.
6. Don't Buy Your Child Off.
7. Re-evaluate your own buying decisions.
8. Help your child learn the value of hard work. 
9. Help your child learn how to hold a job.
10. Hold your child accountable for damaged goods. 
11. Every child deserves the pleasure of giving his own money to a
      worthy cause.
12. Cultivate Gratitude.
13. Educate yourself. 

via http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/Parenting_Blog/post/10_Ways_to_Raise_Kids_who_Aren%27t_Entitled/

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

What To Expect When You Have Already Expected?

One of the main purposes of this blog is to blog about my new role as a
"super mom." All moms in my opinion are super moms, from stay at home
mamas to full-time working mamas. There are delicate balances in our
lives; we walk tightropes each day between harmony and madness. We
have so many relationships to cultivate; kids, partners, friends, and work.
The list goes on, but mostly this is a place to vent, to research, to learn,
to grow, and to craft... and hopefully find my balance.

The other reason for this blog is I hope to find ways to instill in my little
boy, and any future babes the culture significance of my heritage, which
is half Iranian. There are so many beautiful parts to my culture, ones I have not
experienced in a long time, or have been reaquainted with through the help
of friends and family... I hope to reconnect, and bring my baby along for
the ride.

Life truly is kheili khoshmaze (very delicious)!